To young to get married

Posted on Oct 29, 2009 under Ready to say "yes" | No Comment

Since we were small we dreamed to get married, to you find the Charming Prince, the man that you dream to get married in a white princess dress, to have a beautiful house and at least one baby. As we mature, however, for most of us, the idea about marriage is changing and we prefer to finish school and have a career before to get married. For others of us, marriage remains a priority and we are in a hurry, even if all those around us say we are too young for marriage. In fact, how young is too young for marriage?

wedding_ring20What does tradition says? In the United States and beyond, the couple must have at least 18 years before they could marry without parental consent. It appears that up to 18 years is not considered mature couple legally to marry. A 1946 Gallup study showed that the consensus of the population is the ideal age for marriage for women is 21 years. The same study, repeated in 2006 show that age 25 is considered ideal for women and 27 for men. As the purpose of marriage has changed from that of tlove procreation and friendship, the average age at which women marry has started to grow increasingly. We no longer focus on sexual maturity, but rather on the emotional, psychological and even financial aspect.If most of our parents are married by the age of 25 years, now it hardly happens. Marriage is postponed as long as possible, many preferring cohabitation.

There are many couples who already have one child or more, and do not want to legalize that connection between them. Motivated often by not seeking more excitement around their wedding, in itself, meaning money thrown out the window, and the relationship they already have is perfect, even if that act is missing. And, fundamentally, the act of marriage does not alter the relationship between the two partners , relationship that it is perfect without the act. May simply have phobia of marriage certificate.
Most of young people say that marriage is no longer fashionable, we like to have other perspectives in life and for sure other models :a partnership life , celibacy or, even, marriages without children. We have become modern, we want to have fun as much and no time for marriage. The studies done lately, shows that partnerships occupy several percent, against marriage. Longitudinal studies carried out over the years have shown that women who got married teenagers , when they had the age between 16 and 19 years were three times more likely to go to divorce than women who marry after 20 years. This is usually because girls expectations about marriage and couple life are not realistic, but based on planned since childhood fantasies about the ideal couple and family life.
We are in a continuous agitation, we came to believe that there are more important things in life, than to go through the marital status or tiring to organize a party with dozens of relatives and friends. Now, the career has come to occupy a much more important place than marriage. For many women, the job is the main concern, neglecting many times, sentimental life. We feel fulfilled if we have a successful career and no longer have time for marriage! For convenience, we do not realize that these two things can go very well together.

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